I got a secret!!
Can you keep a secret? Really, if someone tells you something, does it go in the vault?? If you then tell that secret to your best friend, did you really keep that secret? The ability to share information with one another is a show of knowledge. If knowledge equals power, than the knowledge of secrets creates even more power.
A secret can be a very powerful bit of information. It can be used to manipulate a situation or given the upper hand in a business deal. It could drive one to extreme measures to keep it hidden or told in efforts to relieve ones personal torment. The variations of secret are as complex as the secrets themselves. Still, we all have them, and we all fear ‘em.
I love reading people’s bio, especially when they say that they have no secrets. That is just a bold face lie. As always, those people are the ones with the most to hide. We all have things in our lives that we are either not proud of, or too prideful to let be known. It is interesting to examine your own personal secrets. I have found that it is not the secret itself that is difficult to deal with as much as it is the thought of ridicule you might receive for revealing it.
The classic case of this is the Clinton – Lewinsky scandal. One secret told over the phone, led to a national media zoo over something that was supposed to be “on the DL”!! However, this incident proved how one little secret could define a generation’s view of sex, sexual relations, and it’s place in American politics. Monica’s faith in Linda Tripp proved to be her downfall much more than the relationship itself. I am sure if she had to do it all over again, she would have just called to hello!!
One of my friends is in the Masonic Lodge. He is open about some of the items that go on, but is very selective in what information he will divulge. I find it fascinating that the secrets of the lodge have gone on for so long without the truth being exposed. I guess some people are better at keeping secrets than others.
In the mafia, a person who cannot keep a secret is often called a rat or snitch. They are subsequently put in the witness protection program to conceal their identity from those who would harm them. In doing this, they lose everything they have because they told a secret. That seems like a pretty hefty price to pay for information, but I guess that is what you have to do if you can’t keep a secret.
I wonder if we would be more inclined to tell our secrets if we knew the person we told them to would be like a mason and take it with them to the grave. I think the greatest fear for most of us is that they would rat us out and then disappear, without any accountability for their actions.
Who can you trust?? Does any one person know all of your secrets?? I have always felt that if they put all of my friends in a room, they might be able to find out everything about me, but it would take a large room and a ton of time!! I am also pondering how many secrets I know, have I been good about keeping those?? Have I ever passed on a secret in thinking that it was going to be confided to another without really knowing the other person’s intent?? These are all questions I am asking myself as I am beginning to re-categorize my friends. I think similar to the Masonic lodge; you have friends in different levels or degree’s of depth. Those who you could trust with your deepest darkest secrets, and those who wouldn’t tell your phone number. Is this a true litmus test of friendship?? Do secrets define your relationship with the ones closest to you?? I hope not.
The real reason I am writing this is because I got a bit of news today from someone who I thought was a friend. I can’t really say that they were keeping a secret from me, but I felt that they really could have revealed the information much earlier then when they did. Should I be upset?? After I got the message, I was not upset about the information in the message as much as I the fact that I was the last to know. Is this not a insult in so many ways, or I am turning this into something more than it needs to be?
A secret can be a very powerful bit of information. It can be used to manipulate a situation or given the upper hand in a business deal. It could drive one to extreme measures to keep it hidden or told in efforts to relieve ones personal torment. The variations of secret are as complex as the secrets themselves. Still, we all have them, and we all fear ‘em.
I love reading people’s bio, especially when they say that they have no secrets. That is just a bold face lie. As always, those people are the ones with the most to hide. We all have things in our lives that we are either not proud of, or too prideful to let be known. It is interesting to examine your own personal secrets. I have found that it is not the secret itself that is difficult to deal with as much as it is the thought of ridicule you might receive for revealing it.
The classic case of this is the Clinton – Lewinsky scandal. One secret told over the phone, led to a national media zoo over something that was supposed to be “on the DL”!! However, this incident proved how one little secret could define a generation’s view of sex, sexual relations, and it’s place in American politics. Monica’s faith in Linda Tripp proved to be her downfall much more than the relationship itself. I am sure if she had to do it all over again, she would have just called to hello!!
One of my friends is in the Masonic Lodge. He is open about some of the items that go on, but is very selective in what information he will divulge. I find it fascinating that the secrets of the lodge have gone on for so long without the truth being exposed. I guess some people are better at keeping secrets than others.
In the mafia, a person who cannot keep a secret is often called a rat or snitch. They are subsequently put in the witness protection program to conceal their identity from those who would harm them. In doing this, they lose everything they have because they told a secret. That seems like a pretty hefty price to pay for information, but I guess that is what you have to do if you can’t keep a secret.
I wonder if we would be more inclined to tell our secrets if we knew the person we told them to would be like a mason and take it with them to the grave. I think the greatest fear for most of us is that they would rat us out and then disappear, without any accountability for their actions.
Who can you trust?? Does any one person know all of your secrets?? I have always felt that if they put all of my friends in a room, they might be able to find out everything about me, but it would take a large room and a ton of time!! I am also pondering how many secrets I know, have I been good about keeping those?? Have I ever passed on a secret in thinking that it was going to be confided to another without really knowing the other person’s intent?? These are all questions I am asking myself as I am beginning to re-categorize my friends. I think similar to the Masonic lodge; you have friends in different levels or degree’s of depth. Those who you could trust with your deepest darkest secrets, and those who wouldn’t tell your phone number. Is this a true litmus test of friendship?? Do secrets define your relationship with the ones closest to you?? I hope not.
The real reason I am writing this is because I got a bit of news today from someone who I thought was a friend. I can’t really say that they were keeping a secret from me, but I felt that they really could have revealed the information much earlier then when they did. Should I be upset?? After I got the message, I was not upset about the information in the message as much as I the fact that I was the last to know. Is this not a insult in so many ways, or I am turning this into something more than it needs to be?
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